So… I was involved in this really awkward conversation the other day.
Okay, actually its a series of conversation. 😀
Its not my thing. A little bit of over-stimulation I would say. Cos theres just too many things going on at one time. oh well.. thats just uniquely introvert 😉 none at fault.
It was a table of 5 including me.
At any one time 2 persons or 3 persons would be involved in a conversation.
and while 4 persons were talking about this part of the topic, 1 person will breakout and share with another a different perspective or angle or related part of this topic.
and the conversations just keep going. 3-2, 4-1, 2-2, 3-1, 2-1.
Its mind blowing to say the least.
and then came another, like, the 6th person to join in the table. For a while, everyone just stop and listen to what that 6th person has to say, the 6th person was of low volume no doubt.
and 1 of the first 5 went away to speak to another group.
then the first 4 continued to listen to the 6th.
I didn’t stay long enough to observe and be engaged. I was too much a buffet to the mosquitos there to stay on. 😀
You realise that, well besides the idea that if you want to be heard, sometimes you need to speak softly. Okay, thats just a factor. another factor was that that 6th person was of a different culture, seniority (in terms of age) and life phase.
But thinking back, its really amazing, to say the least. How is it that 5 persons can have multiple conversations, across each other at the same time.
Most certainly to me, its illogical. 😀 Pardon me, don’t feel offended, Its just my opinion.
It doesn’t work for me. Because I believe everyone’s opinion matters, okay maybe some more than the others. But always, theres an angle, or something worth the while listening to if one is willing to accept and is open.
Back then when there was this guy new to the church group, we went out for supper, 4 or 5 of us. There was a lot of useless exchange. Its like a talk cork (rubbish) session. and guess what, I realise people bonded through that.
To me, its stronger acquaintanceship, nothing about friendship there. People still move on. 😀
It kinda spark me to question…
Whats my take on such conversations after all. Do I want to be involve in another 3-2, 4-1, 2-2, 3-1, 2-1?
Is it important to then really have 1-1? 😀
Or 3-2, 4-1, 2-2, 3-1, 2-1. is good enough?
Yeah.. I think I found my answer.
In order to be accepted and be part of a group you want to be with, in, related with, 3-2, 4-1, 2-2, 3-1, 2-1, talk cork session is fine.
But if you want to build a stronger friendship with anyone in particular, 1-1 works better.
Its okay to just be quiet and listen.
Someone needs to play the listening role anyway. 😀
and well, as it says online, aquaintain-ship that last more than 6 years, or has been 6 years passing, that would last a life time. That is worth up keeping.
and hey, who say conversation has to be about building relationship. It can just be as simple as it is, needing that stimulation, needing that intellectual exchange.
I am able to be comfortable with silence, even in the presence of another.
I hope, whoever that I can groom a friendship with is able to handle that too. 🙂
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