I used to click really fast on my Qoo10 transactions and stuff. But I began to slow down. I realise that its not because my mental processing has become weaken.. but because I am more careful now. I want to be sure what I’m clicking for, is there more checks or parts that I can get price reduced or have unnecessary charges or alternative ways of payment that gets me a better deal.
Maybe thats how people that are very careful works. Not because they are unconfident, not because they are old and declining. But because they are just more careful.
I think I made enough mistake because of carelessness.
I think we can all make less mistakes.
So lets slow down and take it in. Take it all in….
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The October guy happened very fast. One week, less than one week?
Chatted with him from online, he seems impressive. Supposedly a business owner. Intellectual?
He was all serious like me. Seldom joke in our communications.
Asks and listens to perspective and challenges what we communicate.
Owns a company that rents out vehicles for private hire,
Owns a delivery services company.
So, came the season that I was back in SG and he wanted to meet. Sure 🙂
We arranged to meet on a Saturday evening, If I didnt remember wrong.
Friday morning we had a chat on the phone, something about what show to watch and what to have for dinner. Then he asked what phone im using, which SP im with. So I said, Singtel, sim-card only.
Then in the afternoon, he sent a photo, it was a BM that is crashed in the front. He said he got into an accident while on the way to pick up snacks for his nephew.
Okay, Ive no reason to doubt, I cant be bothered. So he said he needs to make arrangement with his driver who is driving the company van so that he has a car for the weekend. Possibly help him speed up his delivery work too. Oh ok, sure. None of my business, nothing to do with me. Dont need him to drive me around. Booked the tickets for the movie the next day.
So came Saturday. He was late for movie. Didnt pay me back. Last minute asked me to help him buy a drink. Sure. Should have been earlier rather than buy from theatre at ridiculous price.
Then after the movie, I thought he was nice, sincere, serious, stable. We chatted and made out. Then he asked what I was doing the next day. I said hanging out with dad then flying back. Then he explained that he needs to go and sign for a phone, iphone cos better to have 2 systems to back up his data. fair enough since he is a business owner. He wanted to pass on one of his phone to the father. Something about needing to get home to check newspaper and online for roadshow promotion.
Then explained, not Starhub bcos they blacklist him for not paying $80 for a setup that didnt stream the channels he wanted. Not M1 bcos he made a overseas call while in Singapore but was charged a roaming price of dunno $300 or $500. So he has to sign with Singtel.
Sent me home.
Called while driving saying to chat to keep him awake. okay sure. Said he called the hotlines to check on promo after I got off to sign. Said tomorrow would be a good day to sign. SINCE I AM FLYING OFF.
His intention was to have me sign for him with Singtel. Because he has the max number of line with Singtel already.
I hated pitching… like trying to sell me something. So I cut him off saying, okay fine i will sign for him.
Then after I got off the phone, I felt weird. I dont know him enough. I dont even know his last name. only met him once. He said lets use that 2 years to proof his sincerity towards our relationship. Mind you, his plan is the top end $100+ a month kind.
So I text him saying to send me a picture of his pink IC, front and back. He can blank out his IC number, its fine. I explained that I was scammed before and I would like to protect myself this time.
Thats when all hell broke lose. He said he is real, he has nothing to proof. He said I went back on my words. He was very insistent wanting to know if its a yes or no. then along the line of what rubbish teacher i am, dunno how to read text is it? Dunno how to answer yes or no question isnt it? Said I threw away the possibility of us being together, that he was serious. I said I still have hope for us and you can guess what he answer.
He even the cheek to say yes he planned it all, including the movie, the drink, the cheap make out session in the van. such defeating words. no value… at all.
Verbally abusive with all the vulgar language.
Its so sad.
Something that can be so beautiful, went to the ground, just like that.
Supposed to be a business owner, how come he can be so abusive and impulsive? Thats not very good, business
Hoax? Scam? Out to take advantage?
I dont know, I dont really care anymore. He was verbally abusive. That was all.
Be careful ladies.
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Realised that I’m pretty frivolous in the way I spent money last year. I did 2 staycation (for purposes) in this short 3 weeks break. HAIYO! (But to defend myself, I did pause at the 2nd one and hesitated.) This year will be better! They say, if you dont know how to spend, you dont know how to earn right. OKAY MAN!! I will earn extra, very many this year! I am awesome and nothing can stop me!! 😀
Actually, nothing spectacular, worth me writing about for the year 2017. But well, when in Rome, do as Roman do.
Let me go flip flip my diary. Review the past so I can be better in the future.
Wah, I actually went Macritchie Tree Top and did like multiple walks in Bukit Timah in the short 2 weeks on Dec 2016. Christmas Wonderland at GBB. That is memorable. 😀 Bcos I thought its open at 3pm (like thought its a indoor thing) and, I was all dressed up and pretty, walked from the MRT station in the drizzle to get there. Then nope, its not open yet, went to meet the Kor and gf for dinner, then went back at 7pm to check it out, only to realise that there really isnt much.
I went Taipei in January! That zoo trip! that eerie area.. 😀 Dont remember much about the other animals besides the Bison and feeling grateful for the variety of animals that the SG zoo has upon hearing some other tourist’s conversation. The got-lucky-cos-I-went-early trip at the public hot spring (cos they had to close due to lack of water, after my batch) MUAHAHHAHA! OH and the cable car ride up MaoKong, cannot siA, took it up, like want to puke like that. then took a cab ride down. Interesting. Oh yes, I missed Chun Shui Tang’s bubble tea. :)¬¬¬¬ Bought my 3S and 3 for the dad. Spectacular CNY, cos I threw up on the way to visits on the 2nd day – migraine dont know due to spinal issues or woman problem. interesting.
Suprisingly, the highlight of February was with 2 students. One is my own growth, the other is to help the child deal with his differences. 🙂 Of course, the spectacular teeths…. Around the 6/3, had issues with 2 teeth, crown and root. :/ then 27th, came back to SG to have the roots and the wisdom teeth removed. My wisdom tooth was very pretty! 😀
March is when I started watching Goblin. Courtesy of Iris. 😀 and Telcomsel.
April, had a hangout with a interesting teacher. It bags the question, if hangout needs an objective or a purpose. Then its not a hangout after all isnt it? Last day of April also sees me chatting with a guy thats… lets just call him Batman. 😀 yea, nice guy that didnt work out. In fact my whole month of May was all about him. The whole get to know part.
June sees Batman fading away, Mr T rising. My birthday! Situation being taken advantage of. OH! and declutter too. 11 Red bags for the Salvation Army. and then the crazy stroll at Bukit Timah and that one-time-and-never-again scale from Diary Farm up to Bukit Timah on the 27th.. O_O Madness. of course MacRitchie again. Babies gratuated…
Decluttering was fun, lots of old memories, of relationship that didnt happen (but were recorded in my own way of course). Identification cards that were significant.
August started beautifully. 😀 Just kidding, 1st August was the day when someone texted me to say to not bother him again. 😀 It wasnt me. it was we. too bad it became me. LOL
September and the start of October sees 2 guys that came in my hands. Shocking.
But the 3rd guy in the month of October was a class of its own. Will blog about him specifically in a bit. Dont think he was out to gain advantage (not talking about sexually), but I have no conclusion on it. 13th was the first dinner date with Natasha, its an evolution from Dentist to friend. 🙂
November was the decision month for coming back to SG for good. One of the nights – 6th Nov, when I woke up and felt a prompting in the heart, that its time to come back. Perhaps nothing to do with the loneliness, just… “go back”. Big BOO BOO! Bought a Monday flight when I was supposed to fly on a Sunday. Dumb dumb siA. LOL dont know where that came from (well, I think that afternoon when I was booking, I was booking multiple flights. Probably overlooked then)
December 2nd, I was watching Bridget Jones Diary, That lawyer moving to another place to continue his career. I also want that. Press the RESTART button. Go to another place, do what im good at, be paid well, be esteemed. Restart. 🙂 If only life is that easy. Started BP monitoring. 2nd year to retainers and braces. Did an interesting photoshoot. 28th, officially let the 1st guy go. Some guys are good but not necessary mine. (2nd guy was not even worth mentioning in my diary. Major laugh). 3rd guy. wasted. lol anyway, offically ditched him on the 31st, not that it matters that much to him actually. Hes a player.
Probably would write about him too. theres a good lesson beneath it. 😀
and oh yes, of course, my face is much more contoured now. hey hey! Weight havent really drop, but I know I shrinked.
Happy 2018, everyone!
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They dont stop coming do they? Am thankful that this post has been going around and helping people.
This 2nd one I met.
On the site, he indicated UAE. So I asked him what’s he doing there, he said he’s developing a project. I asked him where he’s from, he said Woodlands (in SG)
I asked about some of the places in the proximity, unable to answer well.
Said flying back end of the month. He said he looks forward to meet me.
I asked for photos of his development he said it’s in his laptop in HK. I didn’t pursue.
But that’s dumb. You are at your site, confirm u wld have taken photos of your “project” unless you are not proud of it or it’s a lie.
So comes end of the month, he flew HK. I questioned, didnt he say he was eager to meet me? He said he told me he’s going back SG bcos he wanted us to meet.
So I asked him what was his company’s edge to have won the project. He couldn’t respond well. He said he is the boss, he presented well, they liked it. So, he got the job. (BULL CRAP)
So I asked for his SG number, he couldn’t provide. I ask him to blur out his ic number n send me a photo of his pink ic. Couldn’t provide.
Ignore him for a while. Then he messaged to say he couldn’t text me for a while bcos his mom died, he was sad and busy.
I responded saying even mother he also bring in.
Then after that, he responded saying “oh thank you for my kind words.” Hai… Dunno how many girls he is scamming at the moment.
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So I followed up with the necessary on the love scammed situation, got this from the HK police.
Though it’s kinda expected (yar, not surprising abt the fake identity bank account registration), it’s still painful to face it.
Spread the word!!!! Get rid of those irritants!!
Oh, n someone asked abt the LINE Account thing:
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So, after this post was published, much girls contacted me, Just thought its a good idea to share some of the more active after actions or what I responded to one of the girls.
Thank God you didn’t transfer any funds to him at all. Please do not do that. I believe that he can do nothing about your account number. If I’m not wrong, unless you’ve provided authorization to the bank, the bank is not authorised to release any funds from your account.
1. I suggest you change a bank account number if its within your ability.
2. Inform bank via phone call or a visit to tell them that you did not authorise and should not under any circumstances allow any movement with the next few month (except pre-arranged giro arrangement).
The truth of the matter is, this photo you have, Is definitely not the real guy you are dealing with. They basically screengrab from other guys (even reverse search on google does not show up). One of them even had the opportunity to chat with guys that supposedly worked in the same company, his hoaxed was even able to supply photos of wedding ceremonies that he supposedly attended. They probably went around an collected an archive of life-style photos.
I’ve been in active conversation with plenty of us, being-scammed-ladies to know this. Even the Hong Kong police indicated “Do not send me anymore photos!!” in his email.
(She asked for my hoax’s account number)
They have plenty of account numbers to go around.
I personally transferred to 2 accounts, both were from different HSBC account. Was pending to transfer to the 3rd account when I got my verification from Lippo Securities and decided to called him out bluff. (when I asked him whose account those were, he said its the finance department that arranged it, he isn’t sure).
There was another lady, transferred to 4 different accounts, 3 from HSBC and 1 from another China bank.
There was a single mom (yes, even single mom, they would scam) its another China account too.
So it doesn’t matter the name of account holder or account number.
To help you verify, you may email the company he says he is representing to verify his identity, to find out if he works for that company. That was what I did. (I know it feels as though its distrust, but no. its protecting yourself. You owe it to yourself to figure out)
As you have noticed from my blog, my policy looked really legitimate too. Unfortuantely, it is not. Lippo securities cleanly deny any relationship with my scammer.
I was supposed to fly to Hong Kong to meet him. He managed to postpone and not meet me saying its part of the contract obligation.
The other lady, he was suppose to fly in to SG to meet her, she went to airport to pick him on the actual day, waited for 3 hours, no show. His “colleague” later contacted her to say he was held back by immigration.
The lady with the 4 account numbers, the 4-times transfer were for: 1. Initial investment. 2. Tax payable 3. Stamp and duty fee 4. Overseas outflow fee. – Just sharing how they will cheat you.
So please don’t send him any money. Cease contact is the best option.
I thought I should carry on chatting with him to stall time for the police and get more live information. It took longer than expected time for the police to respond. Its pointless and it is just conditioning our heart to not trust man (worthy man, included).
Again, please don’t send him any money. Cease contact is the best option.
I hope its not too late for you, that you havent already transferred money to the scammer.
There are a few channels for you to report to should you be a victim.
1. Your local (specific to country) police.
2. The country your supposedly scammed policy/investment company is from. – IF its from Hong Kong like in my case, (1) Hong Kong Police and the (2) Securities Future Commission.
3. Your local bank (or the bank you’ve transferred money from)
4. The receiving bank (or the bank you’ve transferred money to)
Do not suffer in silence. Lodge a report. Do something about it. Its important to have paperwork, Leave a trail. In a way, that helps you should there be chances that you could get your money back (although its really low chances since its voluntary transfer). 🙁
As I said on a facebook post, “Whats wrong with the world? One human being scamming another human being.”…
We are all born with different deck of cards. Its what we do with it that matters.
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P/S: Its really disgusting when I see my scammer’s Line account profile photo changing from one to another. Its like using that same number, changing 3 different identities, I wonder scamming how many girls.
PP/S: Its pretty disgusting too, when scammer use a similar userid on 2 separate occasions to message me. Its either they think I’m really dumb, or they are just out to remind me of how dumb I was.
Feeling a tad gloomy lately, but still sparkling! 😀
Feeling a tad gloomy these days…
Probably the weather, probably the days ahead, probably the mood swing, probably…..
Don’t know, Dont really care. Just know that I need to snap out of it.
The best way to, is to write to myself, I realise. Reflective exercises are always good. To be set on path, to know and be crystal clear. To Re-centre (as google maps would say) To just be happy and alive. Live life…
Okay, I’m just blabbering already.
Think Amanda is gloomy because its time for change again. I know right… no one likes change. At least not me. Or you know I’m way too comfortable here.
I can still remember the initial year when I came, didnt really share that I was abroad, didnt really reveal where I’m working at – more for the privacy of the children actually. Now, to the stage where I would share photos of location at times. Openly tag my home and the nearby mall location. 🙂 Its been a blissful coming-to-4-years.
Bringing along the need to come up with Character Reference letter and searching for a new job. *sulk*
ok ok enough of being gloomy.
The plans ahead.
I dont know actually. Was suppose to stay on for one more year, but due to changes in certain polices and recent events, just felt that its time to go. To leave here, or at least the school.
I think I might come back to Jakarta to teach. Its a good place – for an expat like me.
I really learnt tons about myself after being here. The beauty of being alone. The tireness of flying alternate weekends at times. The beauty of sleeping 10hours 2 weekdays a week during the PMS season. Understanding the effects of PMS on the body. Understanding what keeps me rooted. Understanding what I want. Understanding that money is not everything.
Which reminded me. I was undecided about whether to stay and finished that 1 year or work that 1 more year in some other countries.
After that recent scam, I know it is imperative that I find love and settle down, soon. 😀 Was telling myself I should go back to Singapore and be available there. Thats the way to be attached and settle down isnt it. But deep in my heart, I was like but back in Singapore, the payscale will not be on par with the current I’m getting…
Then I reminded myself. Money is a powerbase. If you can ignore it, it will not be used against you. You can be set free to do the things that you want to do.
That was a good answer. I feel.
and obviously, by going back to Singapore, it doesnt necessary mean I will be able to “find love and settle down” 😀
But well, It is still one step.
So… 1 more year.. to go or not to go?
Dont know, dont want to know, just keep sending resume I guess. 😀
Any takers? 😀
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I think I know the answer..
Went to do manicure, pedicure today. Couldn’t decide if I wanted to do colours or not since its the begining of school next week. Decided to do colours in the end. Bcos that was the exact same lesson I learnt the previous time I did gelish.
“Do it for yourself. Not anyone, anything else.”
It happened during that scammer season. Met him from online on Week 0. Decided during Week 3 to fly over and celebrate with him on his bday during weekend Week 7.
Planned to go do manicure in preparation for the meetup.
Signed the “investment” contract during Week 6. Supposedly due Week 8 wednesday for decision making. Which is past his bday weekend. Didn’t realise that the contract indicates to not meet during period of investment as I’m the beneficiary and he is the guarantor.
Decided to postpone the visit to week 8, after his bday week as I wld prefer things to be done properly, not violating the investment contract.
That day after school (begining of week 7), as I stood there deciding to go manicure or not (since the trip got postponed), I felt in my heart to do things for myself. Not because I’m going to meet him. But bcos I want to do it for myself. So I went ahead and did my favourite nail colour, red with glitter.
So came week 8, decision making, to cash out or carry on investing. I thought after the decision was made, it’s okay to meet him. Decided to cash out. After the conversation with the finance dept, required to pay tax, he said to finish paying the tax before he would meet me.
That was the weekend when I found out the truth for myself. 🙂 He is not real.
That everything I do, I should do it for myself.
Do it for myself.
He put up a new profile on OkCupid by the way.
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Was just trying to make a transaction for a backup ticket because I bought the previous ticket’s flight timing too early.
Then it hit me that I’m always not that good with managing money, that silly scam and now this ticket thing…
Maybe I bought the ticket when I was still a little affected by the scam? Maybe I just wanna get home and spend time at home.
I was very upset… and as I sat there trying to decide if I want to gamble with the timing or pay for the backup ticket. I thought to myself “I am not very good with managing my money. No, its not my money, its the Lord’s money. I’m a steward of His money.”
Then it hit me. “and guess what, no lesson is too expensive for the Lord. He just wants to get you there.”
I think as I struggle with money issues, or as some of you do not. 😀 I need to remind myself that everything is a learning lesson, there is no coincidence. Its all God-incidence.
That nothing, no price is too expensive for Him when He wants to get you to what He has planned for you. That final Goal. of the Him in mind.
Praise the Lord!
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