Category Archives: TOTD

still dreaming..

its coming to 2am, woke up ard 12plus to visit the ladies n I can’t fall back to sleep. don’t we just hate it when this happen?

still dreaming..

dreaming about publishing my own book.

dreaming about singing with a live band after work, casually.

dreaming about eating whatever I want whenever I want.

dreaming about resting in a pool. Just soaking in, relaxing the body.

dreaming about having a happy family with a committed and loving husband.

dreaming about dreaming.


Thanks for coming by

Be Bless

P/s: did I mention I totally lost faith in online dating? I’ve met an imposter n now I’ve met a scam. Not so sure if I could handle what this world throws at me anymore..


From GALLUP Business Journal:

Self-Assurance is similar to self-confidence. In the deepest part of you, you have faith in your strengths. You know that you are able — able to take risks, able to meet new challenges, able to stake claims, and, most important, able to deliver. But Self-Assurance is more than just self-confidence. Blessed with the theme of Self-Assurance, you have confidence not only in your abilities but in your judgment. When you look at the world, you know that your perspective is unique and distinct. And because no one sees exactly what you see, you know that no one can make your decisions for you. No one can tell you what to think. They can guide. They can suggest. But you alone have the authority to form conclusions, make decisions, and act. This authority, this final accountability for the living of your life, does not intimidate you. On the contrary, it feels natural to you. No matter what the situation, you seem to know what the right decision is. This theme lends you an aura of certainty. Unlike many, you are not easily swayed by someone else’s arguments, no matter how persuasive they may be. This Self-Assurance may be quiet or loud, depending on your other themes, but it is solid. It is strong. Like the keel of a ship, it withstands many different pressures and keeps you on your course.

I think…
Ultimately, self-assurance is sexier than sexy. More secure than confidence. Keeps one alone but not necessary lonely. Makes those who possess, attractive to those who dont.

N one ponders, is tt the yardstick of a complete person?
Does that then write off the need for companionship of a person?
Do 2 self-assured person make for a perfect relationship?


Was discussing with friends and continued the intellectual debate with myself (yes, my brain is very busy 😀 ) and I kinda gathered something.
I think while we seek companionship, it is not like needing that companion to complete ourselves.

Its more like in every phase, in every societal setting, they are multiple roles that needs to be fulfilled in-order for the phase to be considered as whole, completed.
That being said, you need two whole persons, or self-assured person to be in a relationship.

Aint got no perfect relationship ladies gentleman. Because you can perhaps get a self-assured person to back down and come to an agreement, a compromising situation in-order to be on par with the other self-assured person.

Whatevcr the ho, whatever the hey, it is important to be open, and be whole as a person at the same time.


two very thick topics put together. 🙂


thanks for coming by

Be Bless


Home (Part 1)

When I get my new house, it shall be of high floor. because after a long day at work, going to a home with a view feels much better than going to a home looking at people’s kitchen. perhaps that would make the day’s effort worth the while.

Was walking to the mrt station from office the other day and happen to notice the lights of one of the room in Hilton Hotel lighted up.

And that got me thinking, how good it was if I were to go home to a view at the end of a hard day’s work.
That would most certainly make the long day’s work worth the while.

Or at least a view that allows the eyes to wander far, not into other people’s kitchen.

Not really so near to the sea, because the light reflected would be too glaring…

Just good enough for me to see far and out…

Thanks for coming by

Be Bless

P/s: my next trip overseas (multiple days holiday), it must b of a hotel with a view


Finally manage to take photo of my new hairstyle… 😀
Yup, I love love it!


And well, a new journey as well. 🙂

A New journey again,

Or just a new job actually. Or maybe the company isn’t that new to me, been overly familiar, just that im taking on a different role this time.

Anyway, it’s been very stretching in the current company.
And perhaps I was really physically tired hence didn’t have the mental strength to be above the situation.

Had a chat with a colleague, who’s old enough to see through it all. And perhaps bcos he is at a more senior level that’s why he could give me a 3rd persons opinion.

The issue was first on capabilities and then it rolled into trust.

So my colleague said, he doesn’t need trust to do his work.
Perhaps bcos we are in different shoes in-terms of work.

He came to the understanding that trust and relationships are very I,portent to me.
and then he asked: am I born under the star sign of cancer?

Oh my, that’s right. I am.

Turns out people under the star sign of cancer puts great importance in trust and relationship.

Then later on in the conversation, it was revealed that I’m born in the year of the ox and that further stretches the point of trust and relationship.

I wonder why…
Anyone care to share?

My understanding was that as an ox, I work really hard, and these hardworking is only worthy if I’m working for people I could trust. And that trust builds from relationship perhaps? 🙂

Let’s see if I’ll get to dig out more from him…
He wasn’t able to put a pin to it.

But this trip, it sure as hell reveals to me how much importance I put on trust… 🙂

Thanks for coming by,

Be bless

The revelation of Pure Double Chocolate 

Okay… This has absolutely nothing to do with the drink, it’s used as s title bcos I happen to be having that now. 😀 

Sitting at KL’s budget airline’s airport called LCCT. Low Cost Carriage Terminal maybe. 
Came by to Coffee Bean cos the other restaurants seems to be too busy and crowded for me to leave my bags alone to place my order. 🙁 the pains of travelling alone. 

I want to complain ar! No lasagna for a hungry Amanda ar…. 🙁 

Stolen from: “”

So so… Anyway, 
I sat down at a seat and a thought came to me. 
Why am I so bothered about respecting superiors… 

Okay.. Maybe not really that, but rather, 
What is it about people of higher position that invokes me to give them the respect and honour?

I realise, it’s bcos of experience. 
Why is it that papers need to be approved by people of the higher management before anything can be executed? More than just having the numbers matched and the information verified. I realise, a lot is also because of experience as well. 

The boss would have seen enough to know whether this proposed item can be executed, the foresights and the outcomes that will come from their years of experience. Not that it has to be directly the same kind of thing, but rather, things that are similar and affected by related condition. 

It triggers my chain of thoughts going ahead. 
Being in leadership position, people look to you for advise and foresights, people look to you to give guidance and provide knowhow. 

What then if you are thrust into a leadership position but do not have enough experience to support it? 
Perhaps not not enough. But just not as much as how one would wish it to be. 

That’s when considerations and lots of why comes in. 
Not saying no for the sake of saying no, but having a legitimate reason in doing so. 
Saying yes because it will truly benefit, putting thoughts and consideration about enough to consider how things will be affect. 

Why did that paragraphs came about?
Well, I had been associating with plenty of experienced people these days and I realise they are very capable of saying no, not just so they can push things away (those, I have met plenty too). But rather really saying no bcos there is a legitimate reason. 

It’s like when I am in a leadership position, will I be able to say no to things and requests that comes by that shouldnt be handled by my staff? 

When I say yes, or considers the hurdles ahead, how will my staff be affected? 

These are thoughts that needs to be regulated. 
Regulated to prevent missing opportunities, Regulated to prevent my staff from being burnt out. 

I love my Pure Double Chocolate. 

Every Vacation Is A Good Vacation…
Nope, this isn’t a vacation, I just happen to be out of Singapore.

I think these are thoughts that parents need to think through too…

Thanks for coming by 

Be Bless 

P/S: I burnt out, bcos he didn’t know how to say no. I burnt out, bcos he didn’t know how to use my talents for opportunities presented. 
I thought being aware of what kind of job one wants and having a goal in life is important. Choosing the right boss turns out is as important a well. 

TOTD – That everyone plays a part.


Was filled with positive thoughts about the young boy in checkers shirt when he first sat down w his plate f rice. I thought he was so independent, worthy of my praise.

Then he stood up and walked away. Came back w a set of steel cutlery.
Oh turns out he was using a plastic spoon initially.

Then he took off his bag and drop it on the floor. Drop literally not put.

and soon enough the plastic spoon landed on the floor as well. Quietly and as discreet as possible, right underneath the table where he sits.

Another young boy, a woman and a man came and sat at the table.

The woman scolded the boy regards the bag.

I wonder what will she do if she knew the boy dropped the spoon.

On my side, as a righteous public member I should have pick it up and place it on his table. (It’s alright afterall to change the mind and wanted to use a steel spoon instead. Just leave it on the table, why do you litter?)

But it feels like if I do that I’m being a teacher again, correcting “student”. Mind your own business Amanda.

But what is it? Lack of the right Parenting? Lack of education in school?

Or is it a blatant unawareness that everyone plays a part in keeping the environment clean?

And don’t you dare tell me drop the spoon on the floor so the cleaner has a job to do. (Unless jokingly of course).

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Be Bless

TOTD 9/4/12 – they feel sexy they will be sexy

What women find most attractive about men are things like competence. If you are expert at almost anything you will feel more confident and have a sense of who you are. This will show in every aspect of your body language, from the way you walk to the way you look at a woman. And women want men with soul, with passion, with vitality, with a twinkle in their eyes, with the promise of an intense, ecstatic life. When men found a mission, show courage, conviction and competence, they feel fully alive and this connects them to their potency. They feel sexy and if they feel sexy they will be sexy.
So perhaps sexual attraction can take on other less shadowy meanings for us and include playfulness, vigor, intensity, vitality and ecstatic pleasure.

Why the bias towards men, you might be thinking? Well, women are simply better at sensing and responding to non-verbal cues. If I presume to consider where women might change their body language, it is either related to their concerns over excessive male attention, usually triggered by their highly flirtatious unconscious behavior; or their worries about failing to attract men, which usually relates to a mismatch between their internal sexual interest and their external concerns to appear chaste because they believe this is more likely to lead to love.


– Sexual Body Language, Martin Lloyd Elliott
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Be Bless