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About avnjl

Amanda is a lifestyle blogger who endeavours to better herself through reflective practises. She is known to be witty and analytical although at times she seems to be talking to herself. Cooking (food and literature) is therapeutic to her, so Indulge in her and perhaps drop her a note or two along the way? ;)

Impatience

Phil Pringle – Leadership Files, Impatience

Many problems you face will come from impatience – shortness of spirit.
Impatience makes you do a thing several times, instead of once slowly.
Impatience makes you miss the wisdom that comes from waiting and thinking before acting.
Impatience makes you lose friends when they frustrate you.

Because of impatience you will lose control of your temper.
Impatience is a short spirit.
If you’re a person with a short fuse people will avoid you.
You will scatter instead of gather.

BUT, James 1:3 declares that the time to exercise patience is exactly when you dont want to – when you’re under pressure.
If you develop patience and become great at waiting and coping and putting up with … everything … you will be “complete and entire, lacking in nothing’ (verse 4)

Go for it. Be a patient person.

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Self-assurance

From GALLUP Business Journal:

Self-Assurance is similar to self-confidence. In the deepest part of you, you have faith in your strengths. You know that you are able — able to take risks, able to meet new challenges, able to stake claims, and, most important, able to deliver. But Self-Assurance is more than just self-confidence. Blessed with the theme of Self-Assurance, you have confidence not only in your abilities but in your judgment. When you look at the world, you know that your perspective is unique and distinct. And because no one sees exactly what you see, you know that no one can make your decisions for you. No one can tell you what to think. They can guide. They can suggest. But you alone have the authority to form conclusions, make decisions, and act. This authority, this final accountability for the living of your life, does not intimidate you. On the contrary, it feels natural to you. No matter what the situation, you seem to know what the right decision is. This theme lends you an aura of certainty. Unlike many, you are not easily swayed by someone else’s arguments, no matter how persuasive they may be. This Self-Assurance may be quiet or loud, depending on your other themes, but it is solid. It is strong. Like the keel of a ship, it withstands many different pressures and keeps you on your course.

I think…
Ultimately, self-assurance is sexier than sexy. More secure than confidence. Keeps one alone but not necessary lonely. Makes those who possess, attractive to those who dont.

N one ponders, is tt the yardstick of a complete person?
Does that then write off the need for companionship of a person?
Do 2 self-assured person make for a perfect relationship?

 

Was discussing with friends and continued the intellectual debate with myself (yes, my brain is very busy πŸ˜€ ) and I kinda gathered something.
I think while we seek companionship, it is not like needing that companion to complete ourselves.

Its more like in every phase, in every societal setting, they are multiple roles that needs to be fulfilled in-order for the phase to be considered as whole, completed.
That being said, you need two whole persons, or self-assured person to be in a relationship.

Aint got no perfect relationship ladies gentleman. Because you can perhaps get a self-assured person to back down and come to an agreement, a compromising situation in-order to be on par with the other self-assured person.

Whatevcr the ho, whatever the hey, it is important to be open, and be whole as a person at the same time.

 

two very thick topics put together. πŸ™‚

 

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Love,
Amanda

 

I won’t dance

“Step up” the movie did a fantastic cover on Fred’s “I Wont Dance”, but not sure why embedding wasnt allow. So heres the film version πŸ™‚

Do click on to the “Step Up” movie version: http://youtu.be/4Gt66uDcal4

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Leadership Files

The Leadership Files – Ps Phil Pringle

“If you only do what you can do, then you’re only ever going to do what you can do!

But, if you start to do what you cannot do, you’ll find you can do what you cannot do.
And what you absolutely cannot do, God will do, or a team of incredible people will, who are attracted tot he person attempting to do what he cannot do.
Don’t imagine God will ask you to do what you can do!
He asks you to do what you can’t do.
Then you’ll need Him to do it!
But you’re the one who starts the impossible dream.
No one, not even God, gets inspired by the mediocre.
Attempt the impossible, ignore the critics, attract the best and accomplish the unbelievable!”
I found this a helpful thought from a risk-taking leader.
I love it – Now I want to live it!

Source: http://geoffslearningwisdom.blogspot.sg/2009/03/leadership-files-ps-phil-pringle.html

Sinkholes

Had a chat with a friend and I came up with an illustration. Thought its good to write it down since its positive.

Our life journey has been like a road.
You don’t know what’s underneath.

It could be a sinkhole, that out of the blue, you just drop in and life just puts you in a lousy situation.

However there’s still this part of stable grounds ahead. That.. You know, that everything is peaceful, smooth and supported.

And the best part is, after those sink holes. You kinda sorta know how to look ahead and spot those unstable happenings.

You become more aware of charting your life.

That hey, though life throws you lousy situations to put you down for a while. The stable road will come.
Maybe just not that far ahead. πŸ™‚

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

The Sessions

Went to watch The Sessions the other day.

It’s very mild, but very deep I guess.

That man with Polio.
How did girls fall in love with him?

Simple.
1. He makes girls laugh.
2. He is giving, of the little that he has.
3. He is simple, which makes it so easy for people to fall in-love with.
4. He needs to be taken care of, like it or not being able to take care of someone is a realisation of a human’s self-actualisation need.

And in the surrogate’s case,
There was affection, selfless-ness in the love makings and his poetry touches.

Poetry.

β€œLet me touch you with my words
For my hands lie limp as empty gloves
Let my words stroke your hair
Slide down your back
And tickle your belly
For my hands, light and free flying as bricks
Ignore my wishes
And stubbornly refuse to carry out my quietest desires
Let my words enter your mind
Bearing torches
Admit them willingly into your being
So they may caress you gently
Within”
β€” Mark O’Brien – Love poem to no one in particular

Mark O’Brien: What happens when people become attached for each other?
Cheryl: You can leave it as love and attraction or you can make things complicated …

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Love,
Amanda

Pretty Woman

Watched the later half of Pretty Woman on TV recently.
And I thought I really should buy the DVD.
Its nice, and I really would like to own a piece of that sentiment.

Although ultimately its very simple, its about love, or falling in love,
theres so many message beneath it.

“yup, it’s that straight forward. but also comes the part of social status, one’s demeanor and one’s character, how it influences the other and changes his life.

it’s like opposite attract, but these opposites are very extreme.

and then again, so much for analyzing the characters and plot, its ultmately..

falling in love.

πŸ˜€ so dreamy.”

I look forward to the day when I will stand like that, with these blings. And walk beside a man that truely deserve my companionship.

“like the rich guy, the heart is truly in love. But the lifestyle, the mindset, is not ready to be aligned with what is expected of him. Until he decides to take action.

and who would be like the girl, ready to give up the ready luxuries, to go and chase for the unknown, or what that might have an inkling of the present lifestyle.”

 

 

Sometimes, Oldies are really goodies.

 

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda