Category Archives: Inspiration

Choose Marriage

WOH… looks like Amanda is in the “Marriage” mood. 😀 or so I say. 😀

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Site URL: http://www.mellowdramatic-lifetothefull.com/choose-marriage/

 

Choose marriage. Choose well. Choose to work on yourself first, choose to figure out who you are, choose to be healthy. Choose to believe that you are worthy of a good love.  Choose to come together not as two halves to form a whole, as if marriages were meant to repair you, but as two wholes to form a partnership.

Choose love. Choose to commit to that love, in sickness or in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, till death do you part. Choose marriage.

People throw around ‘happily ever after’ as if all marriages could be summarised as such, as if it were a foregone conclusion. It is not. It is something that needs to be guarded and nurtured, it is a sum total of all our choices. Choose well.

 

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

The Notebook

I finally watched “The Notebook”. Its gazillion years ago. I know. 😀

HBO in my Jakarta apartment, thats why.

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I didnt notice a lot of dialogue, except 2,

ones the one where she was screaming at the mom, talking about her and dad never play. watever watever.

the other one, of course is the guy to the woman:

“Would you just stay with me?
Stay with you? What for? Look at us! We’re already fighting!
Well that’s what we do! We fight! You tell me when I’m being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you’re being a pain in the ass! Which you are, 99% of the time. I’m not afraid to hurt your feelings, you have like a two-second rebound rate and you’re back doing the next pain in the ass thing.
So, what?
So it’s not gonna be easy, it’s gonna be really hard. And we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I wanna do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me. Everyday.”
― Nicholas SparksThe Notebook

 

Its real, because thats how relationship is… thats how two very different and complete person coming together is.
Because one is assured about him/herself. 2 complete persons coming together, fighting because of the different opinion, and yet at the end of the day, agreeing to disagree and continue on “forever” “Everyday”.

 

Its realistic although poetic.

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

 

Paris

Speaking of traveling… I set a vision for myself. I want to take a photo of the 12 apostles before it becomes dunno how many apostles left. 😀

and was sitting in a car the other day, was pretty provoked by myself. Or probably the bus, after a meal w Iris, and I felt it in my heart.
I shall go to Paris and visit the Eiffel tower as a graduation celebration after my UniSIM.

 

Yup, UniSIM…. Its not going to be easy, hadn’t been, neither will be.

😀 and on that note, nobody said anything about not going before the graduation. 😀

 

HAHA!

Hmm… and I was strategizing, you know the French speaking people, they kinda not appreciate people trying to speak English to them? 😀
Okay! I shall speak in Chinese the whole time that I am there. 😀

HAHAHAA!

Or maybe Bahasa Indonesia.

HAHAHAHA!

 

ANyway. 😀 Just saying.

 

Where do you envision yourself to go?

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Pretty Face

Happy Teacher’s day by the way.

 

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I have nothing against Pretty Face.

and I guess its the reality of life that has made things to be like that.

So girls do what they are good at, be pretty.

and man, well, be good at earning money.

not saying that woman are meant to be vase or trophies.

 

Just saying that this is the effect of what changes has on society’s influence.

 

But I will say, if I have the talent, I will reach out to talented man too.

Because I deserve it.

 

the rest, well, whatever that floats their boat.

 

Go ponder.

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

When perfect kisses are not desirable.

Got this off the net about this guy with OCD expressing spoken poetry.

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Source: http://gawker.com/man-with-ocd-blows-internet-away-with-hauntingly-stirri-1111560858

 

Theres much slamming about whether it is poetry or not. I think, who cares if it rhythms or follows a b b a a b b a or not. As long as it touches your heart it is literature.

For many, it is the last few lines, for me its:

When I turn the lights on and off and on and off (repeat multiple times) she close her eyes and imagine that the days and nights were just passing in-front of her.

How can it be a mistake, when I don’t have to wash my hands after I touch her?

She could run away from this and I just can’t. I can’t go out and find someone new bcos I always think of her.

She was the first beautiful thing I ever got stuck on.

I want to wake up every morning thinking about the way she holds her steering wheel. How she turns shower on like she’s opening the safe, how she blows out candles, how she blows out candles, blows out candles, blows out candles…

 

In as much as I dont like to study literature or understood the need to study it, I still cant run away from the romanticist in me…

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Be Kind

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Got reminded of the “Even the freaks need love’ picture above a couple of weeks ago. Actually used it through some of the difficult times and of course in the old blog as well. 🙂

Even in the most recent posting of not getting what we want.

I think it still resounds in everyday live.

 

While we go out there with all the good that we have, or absent-mindedly forgot about the -ves that we embodied and manifest, we often forgot about it. We dont necessary notice that perhaps people dont see what we see as good as good.

 

and again I’m screening, everybody has a different deck of cards from God, everybody experience a different thing the past hour compared to you did.

 

While I may not be able to empathized and understand what they have went through, “Be kind to unkind people, they need it the most”. “Even the freaks need love too.”

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

 

The List

Chinese-Passage-Iris

Image kinda small here, download it here

The last 2 paragraph translated with my limited mandarin capabilities:

Always remember, never put a weight on people’s love and emotions. Because what you see as hard and difficult  might be very easy and simple for them to get through. What you see as incompatible, they don’t really care about. There is no compatibility in love and emotions. There is only suitability. Not everyone can find that desired one, but everyone will come upon that suitable one. When we come upon that, all the complicated list of requirements would be discarded. Noise would quieten down, become simple, and no list or requirement will suffice to qualify them. You don’t need effort or tricks to hang on to him, and he would leave you neither.

 

Standards and requirements are prepared for the one you do not love, when you chance upon someone that makes your heart beat, the standards are not standards anymore. There is no reason or rhythm to it, like you have no idea why someone would have you up and about for so many years,  those emotions and feelings have no reason. You love her, but you don’t know why.

 

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Psychopath .. CEO

Talking about being sick, or in this case being a psychopath.

Was reading an article on knowledge magazine and lucky you it is available online.

Could You Spot A Psychopath?

Source: http://sciencefocus.com/feature/psychology/could-you-spot-psychopath

While he tested their performance and overall potential, Babiak was permitted to use the Hare Psychopathy Checklist – the psychometric test typically used to assess whether criminals have psychopathic tendencies. Babiak discovered that out of the 203 people he tested, one in 25 of them were classified as psychopaths, despite having no criminal background. That’s four times the number he would have expected to find in the general population.

When Hare took a closer look at the data, he discovered something else. “The company’s in-house evaluations of these people often said stuff like ‘this guy/gal is a team leader – innovative, bright, can be trusted, lights up the room when they step in, and so on,’” says Hare. “In fact, the higher they tended to score on the Psychopathy Checklist the better an impression people had of them.

“But when we measured their performance scores, by looking at how effective they were at furthering the company, they went right down as their checklist scores went up. In fact, when you get up at the high levels of the psychopathy scale, their performance was generally unacceptable. They should have been fired, but they weren’t because they were viewed differently by the people – they were great at managing impressions.”

 

 

They’re also thought to control our inhibitions and our attention. So far it seems his scans back this up. Inside the MRI scanner, when an individual classed as a psychopath is asked to weigh up a serious moral dilemma – like whether they should divert an out-of-control tram to hit a bus full of schoolchildren or one headed to a retirement home – their brain doesn’t seem to work as expected. Their amygdala – an almond-shaped brain segment that deals with raw emotions like fear and rage – should reel in horror at this hypothetical disaster. But the scans reveal that it remains relatively sedate in psychopaths. In fact, the more severe their psychopathy the less this part of the limbic system seems to react.

It doesn’t seem to be just one isolated portion of the brain that’s affected either. “The Orbito-Frontal Cortex (OFC) is supposed to attach emotional salience to fear stimuli,” says Kiehl. “In other words, it helps make sense of the basic emotions formed by the amygdala. When the psychopaths were asked to rate moral violations, this circuit also demonstrated much lower levels of activity than non-psychopathic prisoners. Not only were they not picking up on the emotionally charged content, but their brains didn’t seem to be equipped to attach meaning to it either.”

The result of this faulty circuitry is that they either fail to empathise or understand an emotion in the first place, or don’t know the appropriate way to react to it – something Kiehl has witnessed first hand.

 

 

Go read it, its pretty damn cool. 😉

 

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Impatience

Phil Pringle – Leadership Files, Impatience

Many problems you face will come from impatience – shortness of spirit.
Impatience makes you do a thing several times, instead of once slowly.
Impatience makes you miss the wisdom that comes from waiting and thinking before acting.
Impatience makes you lose friends when they frustrate you.

Because of impatience you will lose control of your temper.
Impatience is a short spirit.
If you’re a person with a short fuse people will avoid you.
You will scatter instead of gather.

BUT, James 1:3 declares that the time to exercise patience is exactly when you dont want to – when you’re under pressure.
If you develop patience and become great at waiting and coping and putting up with … everything … you will be “complete and entire, lacking in nothing’ (verse 4)

Go for it. Be a patient person.

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Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

Leadership Files

The Leadership Files – Ps Phil Pringle

“If you only do what you can do, then you’re only ever going to do what you can do!

But, if you start to do what you cannot do, you’ll find you can do what you cannot do.
And what you absolutely cannot do, God will do, or a team of incredible people will, who are attracted tot he person attempting to do what he cannot do.
Don’t imagine God will ask you to do what you can do!
He asks you to do what you can’t do.
Then you’ll need Him to do it!
But you’re the one who starts the impossible dream.
No one, not even God, gets inspired by the mediocre.
Attempt the impossible, ignore the critics, attract the best and accomplish the unbelievable!”
I found this a helpful thought from a risk-taking leader.
I love it – Now I want to live it!

Source: http://geoffslearningwisdom.blogspot.sg/2009/03/leadership-files-ps-phil-pringle.html