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Sinkholes

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Had a chat with a friend and I came up with an illustration. Thought its good to write it down since its positive.

Our life journey has been like a road.
You don’t know what’s underneath.

It could be a sinkhole, that out of the blue, you just drop in and life just puts you in a lousy situation.

However there’s still this part of stable grounds ahead. That.. You know, that everything is peaceful, smooth and supported.

And the best part is, after those sink holes. You kinda sorta know how to look ahead and spot those unstable happenings.

You become more aware of charting your life.

That hey, though life throws you lousy situations to put you down for a while. The stable road will come.
Maybe just not that far ahead. 🙂

Thanks for coming by

Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

The Sessions

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Went to watch The Sessions the other day.

It’s very mild, but very deep I guess.

That man with Polio.
How did girls fall in love with him?

Simple.
1. He makes girls laugh.
2. He is giving, of the little that he has.
3. He is simple, which makes it so easy for people to fall in-love with.
4. He needs to be taken care of, like it or not being able to take care of someone is a realisation of a human’s self-actualisation need.

And in the surrogate’s case,
There was affection, selfless-ness in the love makings and his poetry touches.

Poetry.

“Let me touch you with my words
For my hands lie limp as empty gloves
Let my words stroke your hair
Slide down your back
And tickle your belly
For my hands, light and free flying as bricks
Ignore my wishes
And stubbornly refuse to carry out my quietest desires
Let my words enter your mind
Bearing torches
Admit them willingly into your being
So they may caress you gently
Within”
— Mark O’Brien – Love poem to no one in particular

Mark O’Brien: What happens when people become attached for each other?
Cheryl: You can leave it as love and attraction or you can make things complicated …

Thanks for coming by

Be Bless
Love,
Amanda

An introvert’s holiday

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Hello~~~~ I’m out on a trip again-~~

‘cept that this is a short trip and to assist ppl

I think one of the things I enjoy most being on overseas trip is being able to stay in the hotel room and watch tv. Not exactly about their  local program’s, but rather more about the English movies I can find. 😀 it’s like watching movie at the movie theatre, but more luxurious than that. I get the whole hotel room to myself and I can buy whatever snacks and fruits I want at the local convenience shop. Pillows, and bed sheet, temperature to my preference volume control and all that jazz.

But I think more than that, it’s really about the whole relaxed feel that opens room for reflection and really opportunities to think. Such creativity and to certain extend deep thoughts, are reflection, is at it’s best when one is relaxed, perhaps at peace and able to generate more a complex and meaningful thoughts and connections.
Had one from the movie Last Song while I was out in Bangkok with friends.

Okay, that’s two whole paragraph and I have yet to get into the point of this entry. 😀 i would think theres two parts to this entry, one is on the movie and the other is on being an introvert.

Let’s do the introvert one first since its a little shorter. (okay, after inserting all the extracts from the video, its not that short afterall. 😀 )

Introvert…

I came on this trip with a colleague, have a common purpose, not so much about leisure and travel.
So he has his plans, and I can’t really be bothered about making prior arrangement.
Both bcos I don’t really have friends here and I’m not really a shopping person,
I’m more keen on staying in the hotel room and you know, sleep, slack and watch tv (as describe above).

So comparing between my colleague and me, I’m effectively an introvert.  Cos he’s running around meeting people for business, meeting associates and networking, while me? I do my work from the hotel room and spend more time in the hotel room, way more than supposedly a person who’s on holiday would.

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New!

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Finally manage to take photo of my new hairstyle… 😀
Yup, I love love it!

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And well, a new journey as well. 🙂

A New journey again,

Or just a new job actually. Or maybe the company isn’t that new to me, been overly familiar, just that im taking on a different role this time.

Anyway, it’s been very stretching in the current company.
And perhaps I was really physically tired hence didn’t have the mental strength to be above the situation.

Had a chat with a colleague, who’s old enough to see through it all. And perhaps bcos he is at a more senior level that’s why he could give me a 3rd persons opinion.

The issue was first on capabilities and then it rolled into trust.

So my colleague said, he doesn’t need trust to do his work.
Perhaps bcos we are in different shoes in-terms of work.

He came to the understanding that trust and relationships are very I,portent to me.
and then he asked: am I born under the star sign of cancer?

Oh my, that’s right. I am.

Turns out people under the star sign of cancer puts great importance in trust and relationship.

Then later on in the conversation, it was revealed that I’m born in the year of the ox and that further stretches the point of trust and relationship.

I wonder why…
Anyone care to share?

My understanding was that as an ox, I work really hard, and these hardworking is only worthy if I’m working for people I could trust. And that trust builds from relationship perhaps? 🙂

Let’s see if I’ll get to dig out more from him…
He wasn’t able to put a pin to it.

But this trip, it sure as hell reveals to me how much importance I put on trust… 🙂

Thanks for coming by,

Be bless
Love,
Amanda

The revelation of Pure Double Chocolate 

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Okay… This has absolutely nothing to do with the drink, it’s used as s title bcos I happen to be having that now. 😀 

Sitting at KL’s budget airline’s airport called LCCT. Low Cost Carriage Terminal maybe. 
Came by to Coffee Bean cos the other restaurants seems to be too busy and crowded for me to leave my bags alone to place my order. 🙁 the pains of travelling alone. 

I want to complain ar! No lasagna for a hungry Amanda ar…. 🙁 

Lasagna
Stolen from: “http://www.freerecipes.org/simple-lasagna/”

*hungweeeeeeee….
So so… Anyway, 
I sat down at a seat and a thought came to me. 
Why am I so bothered about respecting superiors… 

Okay.. Maybe not really that, but rather, 
What is it about people of higher position that invokes me to give them the respect and honour?

I realise, it’s bcos of experience. 
Why is it that papers need to be approved by people of the higher management before anything can be executed? More than just having the numbers matched and the information verified. I realise, a lot is also because of experience as well. 

The boss would have seen enough to know whether this proposed item can be executed, the foresights and the outcomes that will come from their years of experience. Not that it has to be directly the same kind of thing, but rather, things that are similar and affected by related condition. 

It triggers my chain of thoughts going ahead. 
Being in leadership position, people look to you for advise and foresights, people look to you to give guidance and provide knowhow. 

What then if you are thrust into a leadership position but do not have enough experience to support it? 
Perhaps not not enough. But just not as much as how one would wish it to be. 

That’s when considerations and lots of why comes in. 
Not saying no for the sake of saying no, but having a legitimate reason in doing so. 
Saying yes because it will truly benefit, putting thoughts and consideration about enough to consider how things will be affect. 

Why did that paragraphs came about?
Well, I had been associating with plenty of experienced people these days and I realise they are very capable of saying no, not just so they can push things away (those, I have met plenty too). But rather really saying no bcos there is a legitimate reason. 

It’s like when I am in a leadership position, will I be able to say no to things and requests that comes by that shouldnt be handled by my staff? 

When I say yes, or considers the hurdles ahead, how will my staff be affected? 

These are thoughts that needs to be regulated. 
Regulated to prevent missing opportunities, Regulated to prevent my staff from being burnt out. 

I love my Pure Double Chocolate. 

Every Vacation Is A Good Vacation…
Nope, this isn’t a vacation, I just happen to be out of Singapore.

I think these are thoughts that parents need to think through too…

Thanks for coming by 

Be Bless 
Love,
Amanda 

P/S: I burnt out, bcos he didn’t know how to say no. I burnt out, bcos he didn’t know how to use my talents for opportunities presented. 
I thought being aware of what kind of job one wants and having a goal in life is important. Choosing the right boss turns out is as important a well. 

Story 7 – A New Lens

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Finished reading the book “More Than A Chat”, felt its a really good book.
I realize that there are many perspective to Counseling. People’s conception of it.

In-fact if you noticed, some of my previous TOTD is from the same book as well.
Happen to pick out one story that I do think is pretty applicable in my life, and I wanna share it here.
Do drop by at the National Library or enquire with the REACH Family Services Centre on how to obtain the book.

Story 7 – A New Lens
“You become what you think about.” – Earl Nightingale

More Than A Chat: Real-life Accounts of Lives Empowered through Counselling, REACH Community Services Society

Stepping off the escalator that carried throngs of commuters out of the MRT station, Jit Meng found himself wedged in the midst of weekend shoppers sauntering up and down the makeshift covered walkway. A couple, deep in conversation, was exchanging intimate gestures as they walked past. A group of young girls was chirping away gleefully, breaking out in occasional raucous laughter. Lost in the crowd, Jit Meng was pierced with the familiar jab of loneliness, an old acquaintance that had plagued him for most of his life. However, not too long ago, he had learnt a new way of relating to this acquaintance. He remained himself of the intimate friendship and kinship he was privileged to have.

“It is completely fine to be alone,” he reassured himself.

At home in the crowd, he strode on with lightness, making his way leisurely towards a shopping mall. His gaze then fell on a girl sitting on her father’s shoulders. He involuntarily greeted her with a smile and the girl returned his smile with a beam of delight. A flush of warm feeling filled his heart. Yes, he could relish in the good things the world offered and express gratitude for the good things in his life once again. But his countenance and outlook were not like this one year ago when his mind had been filled with only negative thoughts.

Negative Thoughts and Feelings

Jit Meng had just returned to Singapore after spending three years furthering his studies in Canada. He was 28. He found a job as a customer service executive in an information technology company. Though gainfully employed and surrounded by supportive parents, he felt the world he lived in was hostile, where evil seemed to triumph over good. Injustice reigned in him as he pondered over why life did not deal him the fair share of good things he rightly deserved. Questions about why others seemed to have it all but not him loomed over his head. He was cynical about the seemingly good, and pessimistic about what life had to offer. The negativity was so deep-seated that he was not even aware that it was eating him away.

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TOTD 30/3/12 – Titanic: Artifact Exhibition

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Happened to be watching Channel News Asia and the clip on Titanic’s artifact’s auction came on.


This baker’s hat belonged to William Hine, a third baker on the Titanic. His name is embroidered on the brim.

When I saw this hat, I was like “Oh its so puffy.” and then “Why would anyone wanna bid for that?”
Well, the person can be a very wealthy and influential Baker or a big Somebody in the Pastry industry.

But what really strike me was, “Perhaps its about having a piece of History.”
or just having experienced a part of it.

Its no big deal. In-fact (having experienced a part of it) is not a need, its just a want.

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TOTD 18/3/12 “of seeing positive changes in their perspectives”

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“These men and women were not deterred by the social stigma associated with counseling when they came forward to seek help. As Jit Meng, one of the featured clients, would say, “A desperate man is not a self-conscious person.” Wei Qiang, in another featured story, agree to seek counseling for he recognized that an issue bigger than his pride was at stake. What was common was that these clients were all motivated by the possibility of seeing positive changes in their perspectives or relationships.”

– More Than A Chat: Real-life Accounts of Lives Empowered through Counselling, REACH Community Services Society

by the possibility of seeing positive changes in their perspectives or relationships.

Thought of The Day

Be Bless
Love,
Amanda